Dance Like No One’s Watching Instead Of Worrying So Much

Do You Worry Too Much About What Others Will Think? Here’s why you shouldn’t give a damn. Instead, you should live your life like a dance and “dance like no one is watching”. Here’s my personal story of how it negatively affected my life.

By Annie André ⦿ updated January 10, 2024  
Dance like no one is watching!
Dance like no one is watching!

Do You Worry Too Much About What Others Will Think? Here’s why you shouldn’t give a damn. Instead, you should live your life like a dance and “dance like no one is watching.” Here’s my personal story of how it negatively affected my life.

Not Everyone Can Dance Like No One Is Watching

My greatest regret

For a huge part of my life, I robbed myself of experiences that could have been great because I was too afraid of what other people might think. 

Flashback: Let me take you back in time to my adolescence.

My First Dance

Imagine poofy hair, neon polo shirts, collars turned up, and loud 80’s music playing.

I’m a shy teenager, not yet 15, standing alone in the school auditorium. It is my first school dance in my entire life.  Everyone is dancing like there is no tomorrow, smiling and laughing and having a great time. I feel envious.

I should be dancing too…but I’m not.

It’s not that I don’t want to dance because I do.  I want to so badly. I feel my chest tighten up, and my heart skips a beat.

Despite my desire to dance and practicing in front of a mirror for hours, I stood there motionless, glued to the wall, deathly afraid and unable to dance.

I was afraid to dance. Song after song, I stood there petrified like a statue frozen in fear.  The best I could do was tap my toes to the rhythm of the music.

Afraid of What?

I was afraid if I danced, everyone would laugh at me, judge me and stare at me.

Big In Japan

Fast forward a few years— I’m about 19 years old.

After high school, I moved to Japan for what was supposed to be a gap year abroad but turned into 3 1/2 years. I lived with several female roommates doing odd jobs— teaching English, modelling, hostessing and travelling as much as possible.

One evening, my roommates and I decided to go to a club called Java Jive in a part of Tokyo called Roppongi, famous for its nightlife.

I remember this very distinctly because that was where I had my first hard liquor drink, a Singapore Sling, and immediately afterwards, I had my first cigarette, YUCK.

At the time, Java Jive was a happening reggae bar with a Caribbean theme. There was a mixed crowd of Japanese and foreigners in attendance, and everyone was dancing to the blaring music.

Then out of nowhere, the DJ played a song, which was everyone’s favourite at the time. Maybe you know it— “Big in Japan” by Alphaville?

God, I loved that song.

Blame it on the Singapore Sling. The next thing I remember is being surrounded by other people dancing. And then suddenly I was dancing too, feeling the rhythm, singing along and loving it.

I was completely oblivious to everyone else. It honestly felt like an out-of-body experience, and it felt good not to care because normally, I would be completely self-conscious about dancing in front of other people. 

This feeling of just doing and not caring was entirely new for me.

There I was, 19, dancing like a crazy person for the first time in my life, not caring who the hell saw me. It was FANTASTIC. 

I went home that night high as a kite from both the Singapore sling and the Euphoria of dancing like no one was watching.

But then it struck me. Why had I been so scared of dancing all these years? Why did I let that fear stop me from dancing?

What else had I missed out on because I was too afraid?

Becoming Less Fearful and More Adventurous

A lot has happened since my first fearless public dance. Too much to list here, but I still have that fear of dancing in public, and I still care what other people think; however, I don’t let fear stop me anymore, and neither should you.

do one thing everyday that scares you Eleanor roosevelt

Eleanor Roosevelt once said:

“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You can say to yourself, ‘I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’ You must do the thing you think you cannot do.”

Where do you start?

The magic happens outside of your comfort zone, and doing scary things helps you grow!

To eliminate your fear, you have to regularly expose yourself to things that scare you—ideally in a positive way.

Start small and gradually build up your tolerance until your physiological fear response declines, disappears, or is manageable.

Make a Bucket list.

Say yes more often, like when I was in Floyd, Virginia and spontaneously accepted a challenge to compete in a pig hollering contest, which you can read about here: How I Crushed My Fears By Screaming Like A Pig.

That’s why you should dance like no one is watching!

Please don’t listen to fear, don’t give it power over you and bully you. Face your fear. The more you do, the more control you have over “it.” Once you understand that and systematically expose yourself to the things that scare you, life takes on new meaning and propels you forward.

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Annie André

Annie André

About the author

I'm Annie André, a bilingual North American with Thai and French Canadian roots. I've lived in France since 2011. When I'm not eating cheese, drinking wine or hanging out with my husband and children, I write articles on my personal blog for intellectually curious people interested in all things France: Life in France, travel to France, French culture, French language, travel and more.


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