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Why Am I So Boring? 10 Signs You’re Boring The Hell Out Of Everyone And How To Be Less Boring 

By  Annie André


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If you’ve ever asked yourself, “why am I so boring?” or wondered “how to be less boring,” you’re not alone. Here is what years of experiments, trial and error have unearthed for me. I hope my story and some of the things I list in this article give you some ideas and help with your particular situation.

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STOP!!! READ THIS, FIRST: 

It’s not easy sharing personal things of this nature. You’re free to take my advice or leave it, but don’t be an ass-hole and send me a nasty message just because you don’t like what I am saying- because I am not talking about you. I am talking about me. I’m sharing this information on the off chance it resonates with you. If not, that’s O.K. 

If you’re clinically depressed or have Asperger’s, this is not an article for you. Please seek professional help and stop reading.

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What makes one person boring and another person NOT boring?

You’re not supposed to care what other people think, but let’s face it…Some of us (myself included) do care. You don’t want to bore the hell out of other people or have a life so uninteresting that even YOU find your own life annoyingly dull.

The problem is you have no idea how to be less boring.

So what’s the answer?

Now before you start reading, let me first clarify that I AM NOT AN EXPERT on the subject matter of being charismatic and truth be told, I AM NOT THE MOST EXCITING PERSON IN THE WORLD nor will I ever be.

I do, however, want to be more vibrant in social situations. Less of a wallflower if you will. Not so much because I care what others think of me, which I do but because I admire charismatic and lively people, I strive to evolve and improve myself continually, and this is one way in which I have chosen to do it.

Why Am I So Boring?- My story of feeling like a boring person

I have struggled with the insecure worry that other people find me boring and uninteresting since I was a child.  Less so now, but my childhood worries definitely marked me for life.

I think worrying if I was DULL must have been what made me so damn shy. Shy to the point where It was debilitating. I would freeze or stay silent because I was so afraid of what other people might think of me. I would sit silently in social situations, not wanting to draw attention to me or make the wrong move.

Later on in life, as a teenager, it just became normal for me to shrink into the background or act awkward in social settings.

I looked on with envy at the other kids who, in my eyes, were like social honey attracting all the other kids with their sweet and fascinating personalities.

Yeah, I was that kid who ate lunch alone

I used to dread the lunch bell because I didn’t have a set of friends to eat lunch with regularly. My best friends were two neighbourhood girls who didn’t know me at school.

I am not saying I had no friends because I did. But they didn’t actively seek me out like they did the other kids. People seemed to forget about me if I wasn’t there. No one missed me.  No one looked forward to seeing me. I was always aware of just how uninteresting I was, and it bothered me…

Change through trial and error:

It wasn’t until I was in my late teens and then a young adult when I tried to take matters into my own hands and took action. My goals were to learn to feel more secure about myself.

I didn’t have a psychologist and didn’t ask friends or have self-help books.

Shrivelling into the background has its perks. I was invisible, free to observe others and de-engineer the personalities of those whom I admired so that I could practice emulating them.

I realize now my plan was flawed because emulating others whom we think are interesting so that I could learn to be less boring can only take so far if anywhere at all.

Plus, I think the issue was more of a problem of insecurity, too scared to just be myself and live my life as genuinely happy.

Even today, as a grown woman married with children, I still feel insecure. The difference is, I have learned to recognize the signs of insecurity, and I know what I need to do to fight those annoying voices in my head that tell me I’m not good enough.

I’m shy, but no one believes me now

These days, I’m not the life of the part, but I must have done something right because people who know me today have a hard time believing I was and still am somewhat of a shy and insecure person. Or that I feel anxious and awkward in social settings or that I worry what others think of me- like if I am boring or not.

 When you feel inadequate, it stops you from living life to the fullest. 

Looking back, the thing I hated the most was that my shyness, my insecurities stopped me from doing the things I wanted to do. It was debilitating.

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10 Signs You Are A Boring Person And How To Be A Less Boring Person?

But enough about me. I won’t bore you anymore with my story. No pun intended. Here are the top 10 things which I noticed about myself, which I think made me dull and how I overcame them. Are you guilty of any of these?

1-You Talk Non-Stop About Things That Only Interest You.

Are you a boring person: You talk about boring stuff all the time

Sign: In the early years, I noticed that some of the people I admired most talked a lot, so I tried it. It wasn’t easy because I’m not a natural-born chatterbox.

What ended up happening was I droned on and on for the sake of talking and the conversations ended up being a one-sided conversation about nothing in particular, essentially boring the other person.

No one likes to be on a one-sided conversation, and nothing screams BOOOORING more than talking non stop about subjects that other people couldn’t care less about.

Solution: I’ve since learned there is an art to having a mutually beneficial and interesting conversation.

Unless you’re a magnificent storyteller, if you notice you’re doing all the talking and the other person has gone quiet, it’s might be a sign the other person is not interested or engaged. Try re-engaging that other person by asking him or her questions. Listen to them and genuinely be interested in what they have to say.

2- You’re A Total Downer

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Sign: Let’s face it; no one wants to be a downer—someone who dampens the mood with their negative comments or negative view about life.

This was a tough habit to kick mainly because I didn’t see myself as a downer, and I was.  I saw myself as a realist.

I would see the glass half empty and was way too serious for a kid of my age.

Then I met someone who was like me, and I could finally see myself more clearly through this other person. I was a downer.

Examples of depressing conversation killers

  • “I wish I was smarter.”
  • “Life is so hard.”
  • “Why does everyone hate me”?
  • “I have no friends.”
  • whaa whaa whaa, oh woes me!!

Solution:  Easier said than done, I know but stop focussing on the negative and try to see the positive. It’s an active exercise that will take extreme effort, but it can help lift your spirits. Trust me on this one.

What’s that old saying? If life gives you lemons, make lemonade?

3- You’re Really Uptight And Painfully Serious

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Sign: Fun people like to laugh, tell jokes and let loose once in a while.

My definition of an uptight person is someone who is super RIGID and worried about PROTOCOL or doing things a certain way. They can’t take a  joke and are hard to get along with and tend to complain a lot.  God forbid if they ever let loose or do something that is out of character.

*I’m not talking about children or people with Aspergers or clinically depressed people. And by the way, my son has Aspergers.  I’m talking about adults.

Solution: Let loose have some fun. Laugh at yourself once in a while. You’ll know you’re having fun when you laugh and don’t care who sees. If you know someone uptight and a buzz kill, then try to lead by example. Sometimes your upbeat and fun attitude can be contagious.

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4-You Complain About Everythingcomplain-about-everything

 

Sign: This type of person sees fault in everything and is not afraid to let you know.

There is no joy or fun in being around someone like this because you feel like you have to walk on eggshells around them.

Here are some great examples of what a complainer might say.

  • “The music is too loud” (it’s almost at the lowest setting)
  • “what’s that horrible smell? “ It’s butter, garlic and shallots in a white wine sauce.
  • “Stop walking on the grass; you’re crushing it” (It’s a picnic area)
  • “You eat too much.”
  • “you never eat” (the next day the same person said this to me)

Solution: I have no idea how to handle this type of venomous personality. In my experience, this person is out to make themselves look or feel good by seeing the bad in others or putting others down. I usually try to be very careful around this person, and I try reducing the amount of time I spend with them. If that is not possible, then find an outlet to recharge and reboot.

5-You Rarely Try New Things or Travel To New Places

try-new-things travel to new placesSign: Fun people tend to get out there in life and do things. They have the added benefit of having more experiences outside of work, which means they usually have more to talk about too.

But not everyone has the time or money or inclination to get out there and suck the marrow out of life.

I remember when I was very restricted in terms of time and money. I only had time to do the bare essentials like work, take care of my children, cook and clean. When I did have the time, I often did not have the money and could not afford to pay for a sitter. To say that it was hard for me to do and try new things is an understatement, and my situation only compounded issues for me. Looking back, I should have tried harder or made more time to do things outside of my routine. It might have made a difference.

Solution: Make time, even if only once in a blue moon, to do something out of the ordinary — anything, big or small. 

  • Tackle something on your bucket list (even if it’s as small as reading a book)
  • Go to the museum or a local art gallery.
  • Check out a new ethnic restaurant
  • Go to the gym, start knitting, teach yourself to code.
  • Travel to new places.  

 6- You Never Ever Smile

smile-and-be-happySign: When I think about people who are fun in my life, I picture them smiling, laughing and just being jovial.

When I think of someone boring, I picture scowling faces and furrowed eyebrows.

Which one are you? All Smiles or all frowny?

Solution: Just smile. I learned a long time ago that the simple act of smiling can lift someone’s spirits.

Smiling is also contagious. I have smiled at scowly faced people on the street, and to my surprise, they suddenly smile back.

I once had someone stop to “thank me” for smiling at them. Try it, it works.

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7- You’re Super Predictable and Never Spontaneous

You are a boring person if you are super predictable

I love seeing life through my children’s eyes because, like most kids, they are naturally curious and seek out new experiences.

It’s also fun to be around adults with these qualities.

If you’re stuck in a rut or dissatisfied about how things are going in your life, try being more spontaneous. It can help mix things up a bit.

Examples of some ways you can be predictable are…

  • Everything you do has to be planned to the “T.”
  • You always take the practical, safe route in life.
  • You say NO more than you say YES

Solution: If you’re this type of predictable person, do more things you wouldn’t normally do.

Start right now. Go and find something new to do and do it. Say “YES” more. Stop planning everything. If you’re a planner like me, it’s hard, I know.

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8- You Work All The Time

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Sign: When you make work your life’s purpose, you’re almost guaranteed to become a boring person. I used to be so hung up about climbing the corporate ladder it consumed me. Who wants to hang out with someone who enjoys working more than they like laughing and having fun. I’m all for working hard, but if that is all you do, your family and friends might disown you.

Solution: Spend more time outside of work. I’m not talking about vegging out in front of the T.V. like some tired, overworked couch potato. I’m talking about living your life to the fullest and doing all those things you’ve always wanted to do but haven’t yet. Don’t let work define who you are. Unless, of course, you’re lucky enough to have a job that is also your passion. I imagine artists and athletes might be in this category.

9-You have No Hobbies Or Passions

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When you are passionate about a subject or a hobby, it becomes part of who you are. It can give you purpose and make you feel more fulfilled about your life. (I say can, because this is how I feel. You might feel differently.) Certain hobbies also have the added benefit of putting you in contact with other people who share the same passion as you- sailing, golfing, knitting club, mine-craft group, cooking and even board games.

Solution: Get a hobby, then get out there and meet other people who enjoy that same hobby. There are lots of clubs for various hobbies you can join. Just look online or in your local paper.

10-You’re A boring Hermit

TO BE A BORING PERSON BECOME A HERMIT

I think a hermit’s life of solitude is sad, uninteresting, monotonous and dull. I know some people like being a hermit. That’s great for them. I get it.

My natural tendencies or preference is to stick to myself, live in solitude like a hermit, too; however, I fight those inner voices because it’s not natural. We are social beings. There’s a reason why solitary confinement in prisons is a punishment.

It wasn’t until I put myself out there that I realized the benefits of being social (not a hermit) outweighed any anxiety I felt from coming out of my shell. You don’t agree? You do you, and I’ll do me. Let’s agree to disagree. 

TO BE LESS BORING IS EASY. JUST TRY SOMETHING NEW
I still love keeping to myself and love my boring downtime days but there’s a balance. 

One baby step at a time. Start small and do something new every day. If you’re searching for some inspiration, check out my list of 101 inspiring adventure quotes. 

Before you know it, people will call you “THE FUN ONE”

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  1. Hi Annie,

    Very useful article thanks! I just want to share you that I find it hard to not let work take over my life because I work in a call center that is very demanding with a performance/statistic oriented culture, I speak to a 100 angry customers a day and i always feel like my brain was raped when im done my shift. :( I really tried hard to cope with it, I have been broke and struggling just to pay the rent all my life and I have a much better financial situation since I have this job. So yes Im really trying to stay positive but the reality is that I am completely exhausted. From Monday to Friday I leave home at 6h45am to make sure I get to work on time. I have to be in the office at 7h45am to have the time to open all my applications etc in my computer and be ready to take calls. My shift starts at 8. Then I finish at 4h30 but a lot of times i get stuck on a call and leave work around 5 sometimes 5h30pm. I get home around 6h30 6h45pm and I feel sooooo tired I dont feel like doing anything or just dont have the energy… I have to take out my dog, take care of my son, cook dinner prepare lunch etc etc etc you get the picture… so when there is only Sat-Sunday to clean up, do the grocery and TRY to rest… well theres not much space for outside of the routine activities… i mean i wish.. i cant control how tired i am. Also the fact that I can finally pay all my bills but not too much is left to save or to spend for FUN it is really hard to find stuff to do without spending. Trust me, Im sure im not a naturally boring but I feel like I became a boring person because i am trapped. Just wanted to share this side of the story ;) but Im still going to remind myself of your tips By the way I live in Montreal lol Thanks again!

    1. Hi Kelly, thanks for sharing and I can totally sympathize with your situation. The best you can do is to try to live your life to the fullest within the constraints of your life. For years I was in the same predicament as you. No time to do anything besides, eat, sleep, work, taking care of my 2 young boys at the time (I was a single mom for a long time). Try to make time here and there. Even if it’s only once a month or once every couple of months. I know that my words are not much help but all I can offer is my own experiences.

  2. Hermits understand they’re connected to everything without having to deal with societys trivial drama. There’s nothing wrong with being alone it’s only you people that classify quiet people as uninteresting because youre uninteresting yourselves. Ask the quiet man whether or not he loves todays weather and he’ll surely say something, anything. No beef, but people have a lacking sense of depth in anybody who has interior thoughts most people can’t stand it and I sincerely don’t think this writer has ever been around lonely people either.

    1. Thanks for adding to the topic but I don’t think ALL hermits understand that. If they did than i would not have written this article. I am a closet hermit and have to really push myself to go out of my comfort zone and out of the house sometimes. In any case, this article that I wrote is more about myself and how I dealt with my insecurity. It is not meant to please everyone. If only life were that easy. Good luck to you.

  3. I found this post to be interesting. All my life, I’ve felt like the boring twin while my twin is the “fun” one and a people magnet. I’ve always been serious while she’s been carefree.

    I attribute the differences based on a significant difference in our lives…I am the one who lives with chronic pain due to a multi-systemic condition that affects my body while she has no health issues.

    Unfortunately, while I would love not to have to think ahead of whether I can do something or not, the reality is that anyone with chronic pain absolutely HAS to do the cost/benefit analysis or consider how many “spoons” we have. This doesn’t mean we can’t be spontaneous and fun, it just means not as often as we would like. I still live life randomly to the extent possible.

    Travel is one of the most difficult aspects of living with chronic pain. I would love to go somewhere anywhere internationally to be like everyone else but when all your money goes towards medical bills, it’s unfortunately not possible. Luckily for me, I HAVE travelled in the past and since my twin has travelled extensively, I can share her travel stories. I also travel domestically.

    Since I can’t travel, I immerse myself in other cultures by going to every street festival that I can, Embassy open houses, foreign film festivals, etc. This way, I can share my knowledge about other cultures and countries even while not actually visiting them. And living in my city, the museums are a popular rainy day activity.

    Chronic pain also limits physical activity so while I know about workout fads such as crossfit or yoga, I can’t partake in such activities. I can do things like Pilates and can hike thankfully and walk but can’t run.

    Oh chronic health issues usually means that one has food insensitivities like gluten so that makes eating out insanely challenging and the reason I don’t particularly follow new restaurant openings (although with the rise in gluten-free blogs, maybe I should follow those!).

    Chronic pain also means fatigue…so while it doesn’t mean being a hermit, it DOES mean that I either leave events early or don’t go out at all sometimes or engage in every aspect of an event. Sometimes I do though when I have the energy and surprise even myself at staying out late. I can’t do that regularly though.

    Thankfully I can still go to the movies and watch tv shows and paint.

    Chronic pain unfortunately means leading a boring life compared to most people. Most of us do have hobbies though not exciting ones. We read, do crossword puzzles, paint, color, meditate, cook, listen to music, etc.

    Great blog with great tips overall. I personally am quiet because I don’t want to talk about the non-fun stuff and I tend to handle conversations by asking other people questions.

  4. Well I think that this post is insensitive, because these sound like typical symptoms of depression. I don’t think its effective to tell someone who may be depressed to act differently. People are human being with real life problems. We aren’t toys that you just throw out and not want to be around

    1. Hello Ev,
      thank you for your comment. I agree you should not tell someone who is depressed to act differently. If you had read the entire article i think you will have read the part about how these are the things that I did myself to deal with my own issues. I was simply sharing my personal experience. and by the way. I am not depressed. I am just super shy.

  5. When I was growing up I was told a lot not to talk about myself, not to talk about things that were depressing, not to talk about things that only interest me etc. As an adult I get sucked in to reading silly listicles like this. Now in most social situations I say nothing and am told that I am shy or awkward.

    I have also lived abroad and probably do have interesting things to say about myself but my brain will always be going – don’t talk about when you lived abroad no-one else is interested, don’t talk about the news that willl just depress everyone, don’t share your opinions people will think you’re complaining.

    I don’t know how coming up with a load of restrictive rules about what you can and cannot say made you less introverted but if it did you’re an odd human being indeed.

    In spite of this I did laugh aloud at your article – maybe I will mention it the next time I’m in a social setting, or maybe not it would probably count as number 1.

    1. Well Amy, it made me a little sad to read your comment but that’s ok. This is my personal experience and it worked for me. I can only share what I have experienced and if it doesnt help you than you are free to read other articles out there. You can’t please everyone all the time right?

  6. I’m 22 years old and I’ve been called boring twice by two different people. When I was younger, I always wondered why people don’t hang out with me, but now I don’t care. I only have my boyfriend, my one best friend, and my parents because I don’t like people. I can be very positive and happy sometimes and sometimes I pretend not to care about what others say, but it still gets to me. I’m very shy and introverted. I like being home because I hate most people these days. They’re nothing fake bitches and jerks. I want a job where I can work with animals more than people. Maybe I am boring, but who really cares? I carry myself well and I have a lot of confidence. I’ve been through so much crap in my life that I just pretend not to care and it works for me. The more I tell myself I don’t care, people don’t phase me. I’ve come a long way, and if anyone questions me, I’d just laugh it off line it’s no big deal.

    1. Good for you Maryann. I still do care what other people think but it bothers me less now than it did when I was a kid. I still think it’s a good idea to always evolve and be the best person you can be and experience the most you can out of life. Which was the point of this article.

  7. That means am not a boring person..hulaaaa. Well, as long as the working too much does not carry much weight as am the typical workaholic guy.

  8. I just want to say….I may be the ‘boring’ person you are describing. I also have Asperger’s Syndrome and I am shy as fuck to top it all off. Having a routine keeps me sane as I also have deep anxiety and social anxiety issues. But, my passions are interesting to me even if they’re dull to someone else. I’d like to step out of my comfort zone one day, or at least once in a while but I have anxiety issues as I said.

    What about people like myself with social disabilities who find it hard to meet people let a lone DO stuff with them? I struggle day to day with this along with the full awareness that yes, I may be ‘boring’. I’ve been called the dreaded ‘B’ word before and even a few relatives think I’m ‘boring’. I know my sister and her friends think I’m ‘boring’ and none of her friends would ever date me. I have ‘disabled’ marked on me since being diagnosed with AS over 10 years ago.

    I struggle just to ‘get by’, financially and socially. I can’t just ‘hop a plane’ to Timbucktoo tomorrow. Anxiety. Time. Resources. Part of me never chose to be like this.

    astrosleuth

    1. Hi Astrosleuth,
      One of my sons has Aspergers syndrome also so i understand your struggles. I think that being boring is subjective. I am not a doctor but I know that for my own son who has aspergers that it helps to keep him engaged with activities that he enjoys and excels at and with people who have similar interests. There is no fix really except to just be who you are and accept your limitations. I find that i myself am boring at times but i am ok with that. I do my best to be the best person i can be and that is good enough for me. Not everyone will find me interesting but others might. Hope that makes sense..to you..

  9. i do like the article… went through each and i should say that i am not a boring person, but it’s the other way around… not all, but frequently i meet people that do not interest me.

    1-YOU TALK NON STOP ABOUT THINGS THAT ONLY INTEREST YOU.

    – maybe i do in a way, but that’s because i’m not interested with the sand and the beach and OMG love & relationship (that over a minute i’d puke) but spark me an interesting conversation about business, psychology. i just prefer “brainy” convos over mundane stuff.

    3- YOU ARE REALLY UPTIGHT AND OVERLY SERIOUS

    – i am serious and uptight but i laugh a lot – at logical humor, not slapstick.

    5-YOU NEVER TRY NEW THINGS OR TRAVEL TO NEW PLACES

    – i’d love to, but i don’t have the privilege of time, compared to my lesser income generating peers who don’t even own a business (makes me wonder why they do it when they have to run it on credit cards… i can pay cash, but i don’t)

    7- YOU ARE SUPER PREDICTABLE AND NEVER SPONTANEOUS

    Wear the same style clothes, listen to the same music, eat the same food, ALWAYS. – sorry, it’s called preference.

    Everything you do has to be planned to the “T” – because i am almost OCD and i hate disorganized and untimely people

    You always take the practical safe route in life. – because that gets me to where i am now

    You say NO more than you say YES – i say YES when it’s logically reasonable.

    8- YOU WORK ALL THE TIME

    – unlike some people i have a dream. some want a family and kids. i want a maserati, lugagges and luggages of vuitton that some cannot afford in their entire life unless they pay credit. and whoever says money can’t buy happiness, who says poverty can? and they can call me materialistic, vain, self-centered all they want… i have it, they don’t.

    9-YOU HAVE NO HOBBIES

    – of course i have. so as long as it doesn’t get myself dirty. i love jewelry. that’s a hobby – and a cash on hand. i may get lost in the carribean and know i’d get back home in no time.

  10. You’re only boring if you don’t like yourself. I can’t think of anything more boring than someone trying NOT to be boring for others.

    I like to wear the same clothes. I don’t worry what others think. I could care less.

    I like watching tv. I like my routines. If you don’t…meh. That’s your problem for being so predictably “spontaneous”.

    Give me a break folks. It’s your life. Live it how you like. If you want people around you, clearly you have to listen to them and connect with them in some way. Other than that….meh. Seek out other so-called boring people and just be happy.

    1. Bill,
      thank you for your valuable input. Obviously you are very happy the way you are. So you don’t need to be reading other peoples point of view.
      although i don’t state it in this article, a lot of the things I point out are things that troubled me about myself. And as far as my routines. I love my routines but i also love to live my life to the fullest. We are all allowed to live our lives the way we want. I know i am..
      Thanks

  11. hhahahaha wow you’re like, funny and stuff, right?? The best part of this is when you reiterate what every other person in the world says a lot. Really though, this topic is pretty catty. Thanks for making shy/people with social problems feel defective! That’s just great. Sweet. PS. do you know anyone with asbergers? you basically describe the syndrome when you talk about “mme. M”.

    1. I guess I must have aspergers and so does my son because A lot of this applies to me. So do i find it funny? No, i found it debilitating.
      And obviously, if someone has a mental disability or anything else out of their control this article is not meant for them. I can laugh at myself. Can you.

      1. Annie,

        Your article is rude and insensitive. Unlike you, I don’t try to be something I’m not. I used to be very shy. I overcame this when I got older. People respect me for being me, and no, I do NOT put people to sleep. I get on with loads of people. You should be ashamed for making people feel small. Someone people are talkative, some are not. Shy people do exist and if you find them boring then that is your problem lady not theirs. How you find time to write spiteful articles is beyond vile. Get a life.

      2. Thanks for taking the time to write this comment.
        How do i find the time you ask? Well, boring other people was and still is a stigma that effects me. So in effect writing this article is kind of therapeutic for me in that it helps me help myself while helping other people. Sorry if you were offended by it but that is ok because I cant please everyone all the time but I do my best not to offend people and to try to help people by using personal experiences.If i help just one person who is like me than i am ok with that. If i offended you there is nothing i can do about that.

        And to be honest your comment is kind of hostile and vile and all I can say is “different strokes for different folks”.

        Have a wonderfully non boring day!!

  12. i was just getting bored, then i googled ” i m getting bored, what to do? ”
    then i saw ur link, boredom just vanished after reading it. really anyone can become boring after inheriting even one of these qualities. :)

  13. Wow, so me! I had a feeling I was boring my friends and family and so instead of asking “Am I boring?” as that would likely result in people giving sympathy and saying “No, just find new friends”, instead I wanted to know of it really was me and how I can change so I searched “My friend is boring” to see what people found boring… This is all me by like 90% as people don’t avoid me, I oddly avoid people as I’m afraid I’ll be boring. I didn’t realize what I downer I was and how much of a hermit I am. I have been complaining a lot too and wondered if that was a factor. As boring people don’t mean to be boring–I’m sure like me, they would change if they knew.

    1. Samantha,
      I wouldn’t worry too much. I used to think i was so boring too. I would avoid people for the same reason as you. What i find that helps is to take a genuine interest in others. When you meet someone, new or an old friend. Ask them about their life. Don’t criticize them, try to see the positive in whatever they say. you will find that by exuding this positive and ccaring behaviour you will begin to have energized coonversations with others and people will love to spend time with you.

  14. Hi Annie,

    This is such an awesome post. Most people dont realise how much work and cut off their social life. Definitely recommending it to my fellows….

    Investigatrix

  15. I love this! and your family is so precious. You look like you have a lot of fun together and they seem to be the complete opposite of boring. I hope one day when I have children they will live and lead adventurous and fun-filled lives. I agree that having hobbies helps keep the creative juices flowing which leads to lack of boredom. I got rid of my cable TV and I thought I may become bored or sick of reading but I LOVE not having TV. I love that my conversations with friends and coworkers is not focused around the latest sitcom. I love that I don’t feel guilty for missing my favorite show. I will have to figure something out come football season but for now I am enjoying the extra time and fun I have. Continue living your adventurous life….it’s inspiring.

  16. Hi Annie,

    Couldn’t help but check out your blog because it seems like I keep seeing your comments everywhere I go.

    haha I love this topic! Encountering Madam M sounds worse than contracting the plague.

    I really don’t like to hang out with people who are really rigid and inflexible. Pretty much the same as your #7, these people become so set in their ways that spontaneity just dies around them

    1. Hello Paul, Nice to meet you. Wherever could you be hanging out? Hmmm :0 I’ve been reading alot lately and always love commenting on peoples blogs.

      I’m totally on board with not hanging with rigid and inflexible people. I’m always working on ways to mix things up a bit. I still have my comfortable routines that make me feel good, but trying new things and just letting go sometimes and trying something new can be exhilarating too.

  17. This is hilarious! OMG! When I first moved to France my French was non-existent so I entertained conversations with the likes of Madame M to build my language skills but I quickly tired – what a MASSIVE mistake! I now have to wear a disguise in the village so to avoid contact with the few Madame M’s I entertained back in the day! Love, love this post! Rings soooo true in France and other places I’ve lived too!

    1. Looks like you and i have the same Maladie. Disengagement. I just cannot for the life of me break away from these torturous conversations. My husband tells me he wants to buy me a can of mace because i am a weirdo magnet but that is another story…

  18. Hi there Annie!

    Great-great-great post! This was fun, and funny (great photos)!

    One of these really stud out to me…

    5- Don’t try anything new.

    5a-When it comes to food, I’m cool with what I like. I don’t like what I don’t like and I don’t see a need to try new stuff. I’ll try a new seasoning on my steak..but I’m not going to start eating sushi just because it’s “the in thing”. Just because some people eat Monkey brain – doesn’t mean I’m gonna try it. So, in this category, trying new foods – I’m sooooo boring! I admit that!

    5b – Every business trip I go on everyone is so focussed on the nightly activity. I never am. I like to go back to my room and jump on skype with the wife and kids. That’s my thing.
    Well, every biz trip people want to go out, and always assume that I’m going to go. But I never do…but everyone else always goes. this leaves me looking like the boring guy!

    So, I had to admit that I can be a little stuck in my ways in this category, giving me the boring stamped right smack in the middle of my forehead! I own it!

    This was a fun one. Again, great images!

    I hope you’re enjoying the weekend Annie!

    1. JK,
      If going home to jump on skype to talk with the family, rather than going out with co-workers is considered boring, then consider me boring too.

      Actually I take that back. I don’t consider that boring at all. You’re priorities are with your family. You choose to do things as a family with your family over going out. NOT BORING AT ALL.

      As far as trying new things, well…..I think everyone is adventurous and takes risks in their own way. We all don’t have to go about it the same cookie cutter way. I am a foodie and love to try new foods. I have friends that are daredevils and want to try skydiving, bungee jumping, Kite Surfing. It’s not for me. That’s what makes us all unique right? I’m sure you try plenty of new things all the time. I’ve never talked to you in person, but having read your blog posts, i’m pretty sure you’re the kind of person that likes to try new things with the kids all the time…

      Thanks for your comments and your support JK. hope to see you back soon.

  19. I love this kind of post! I’ve often encountered these Madame M’s and it’s always the same… for some reason or another we are too nice to say, “I don’t like speaking with you, so I’m off!”

    I once saw Jim Rohn (a motivational speaker) and he said that if people are getting too deep into #4 that you can just draw them in by saying, “that must be terrible” and other similar things. Finally, when you can stand no more, say “Well why don’t you just die then?”

    It might seem harsh, but actually it can really help to drag people out of their negative pit! In order to continue the conversation they now have to give you all the reasons why they should stay alive – they have to be positive!

    1. Hello Dan,
      Nice to meet you. I chuckled when i read your comment. I like your advice about asking someone “well why don’t you just die then?” if they keep going on and on about negative things. i see how it may force them to be positive and come up with reasons why they shouldn’t die.

      I’m going to give that a try. Thanks Mr Dan, The Cracking confidence coach.

      1. Use it wisely! I recently used it on my Nana (who is in a home and dying very slowly and stubbornly of cancer – she was given 6 months almost 2 years ago!) who is the biggest moaner, complainer and worrier in my life!

        I allowed her to go on and on about her aches and pains (all minor and trivial I have to add) and finally I looked at her and said, “I’m surprised you even bother going on at all!” There was a deathly hush in the room as the rest of my family wondered if I’d really asked it… my heart pounded inside and she seemed to take an age to respond…

        Finally, with a little twinkle in her eye she smiled and laughed, and then spent the rest of that day in a state of relative happiness. Unfortunately she’s back to her usual self, but I know that when it gets too much, I have that bomb to drop once more!!

  20. Oh yes, oh yes – I know a few Madame M’s. I’d recommend Madame M take a look at your blog for advice, but maybe she’d find herself out then?…lol

    The advice to smile is fantastic, and hopefully most know that they need to stop talking about the weather so much. That’s no good at all. That just means (scientifically speaking) that you can’t think of much to say to an individual.

    Now you’re making me speak conscious. Actually, never mind, I think I’m okay. Wait, are you judging me? No, okay, I think I’m good. lol ;)

    1. Christian,
      You crack me up.. I saw your vlog. it was dazzling. No danger of you boring anyone now is there. No pressure though. but i expect a big production for you next vlog. :)

  21. Hey Annie,
    I tell my children and wife that I’m always guaranteed a good time as long as I’m there:)
    It really can be a downer to talk to complainers and gripers. I try to fix them, and it seldom works, so I just run along on my merry way. Our family is getting ready to embark on an RV around the States and then travel abroad…now, to get this internet thing working.

    1. Hi Rob,
      You are a stronger person than i am. I have a soft spot when it comes to disengaging from gripers & downers. I’m working on it though

      The Rv thing sounds like so much fun. We looked into it for the summmer. We were going to drive up and down the east coast from Montreal to North Carolina but then we saw the prices of renting an RV and said never mind. So we’re just staying in NOrth Carolina for a couple of weeks and then looking at a long stay in France.

      I agree, need to get this internet thing working. I hope its not broken.

  22. Love the post and especially the pictures! I find myself bored as soon as I hit on someone who lacks the passion or drive in whatever we are talking about. But I think everyone has their own passion which drives them to be “interesting” like your weather lady Madam M. The magic happens when we fall in accord with the same passion, and thats when it becomes interesting.

    Martinsays: Thanks

  23. Your next post needs to be about how to disengage from a conversation with the likes of Madame M. Of course, it’s hard to learn to barf on demand.

  24. Annie,

    How nice of you to write a post to teach people to be just like me. :-) I knew you like me but not this much. lol! I love the spin of this post because I can easily look at my own life and notice a few areas where I might be a little boring.

    I would share with where those areas are but then the world would know my secrets and I refuse to give them up without a fight. The pictures helped too. Nothing like seeing smiling faces to change your day. Great article.

    1. Frank,
      Who are you kidding. I’ve been to your blog. YOU are not boring. LOL.

      I was feeling persnickety when i wrote this post. It’s my dark cynical, smart all-icky side showing through.

      But really, who isn’t guilty of being a little boring and less than adventurous? I think everyone has a little of Madam “M” in their lives. And that’s ok. But not all the time everyday right?

      p.s. the family pics were fun to include. My family is my inspiration and a source of frustration. :) i’m sure you understand…

  25. When I started reading I was thinking oh i hate #1. Then I read #2 and said oh that one too!! The first four I cringe when I meet people like that. I know someone who has interesting stories but a 1 min story turns into 10 mins and I’m not listening anymore and just nodding! It’s torture!!

    But I hate complainers too. Complain about the dumbest things!!

    Your post reminds me od a character on Saturday Night Live called Debbie Downer. Heard of her? Go on YouTube and see if there are any clips. It’s funny.

    I love love love the pics of you and your kids!! Especially the one of you and the littlest one!!

    1. Benny, i just saw Debbie Downer and it was hilarious.

      Isn’t it strange how some people are so unaware of themselves and how they are effecting others. Like you example of the person whose story turns into a 10 minute rant.
      You don’t have that problem. You blog posts are so thoughtful and interesting..

      Cheers Benny :)

      1. You’re right that people don’t realize they’re that way. Some people love that kind of person. The guy I mentioned goes to the bars and the girls flock around him.

        It’s just I don’t want to hear stories that shouldn’t take more than a few minutes.

        Thanks for the compliment Annie!

        Benny

  26. Yup! That about do it. The textbook formula to a boring person – the threshold to…the dark side. Perhaps a little dramatic, but I loved your approach on this one Annie. As I read it, and could relate to something, I would think “uh oh, I don’t want to be relating to Madame M.”

    So in tribute to your blog I am taking it and throwing it down the cyber shredder!

    (really enjoyed this read)

    Cheers!

    1. Chris,
      I like that “The Dark Side”. I really do believe it is all too easy to go to the dark side. I’ve encountered so many people in my life who complained about their lives, how boring it was. How they feel like they are in a rut. I would relate to them because i was feeling the same way. Until i woke up.. LOL.

      Thank you for the tribute… Bzzzz crunch that’s the sound of the cyber shredder.

      Cheers, The end of boredom

  27. Understandable, yeah I try to distance myself from booorrrriiiinnngggg people too.
    There are tons of great posts here … you’ll see me around.

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  29. People with those types of qualities are definitely no fun. Although I’m sure we’ve all been there to a certain extent, as humans we have our good days, and bad days. However if you were to implement one or more of these habits into your lifestyle then you’re in trouble.

    1. Vitaly,
      Welcome so glad you stopped by.

      I agree most people HAVE been there and been that person. The example i give is at the extreme end of B-O-R-I-N-G. But it could happen to anyone very easily.

      Hope to see you back again….

  30. Awww what a sweet post! My biggest irk is when I talk with people that lack passion. Or their only passion is to complain. Ugh that can be rugged.

    Hobbies is where it’s at. I feel like so many people forget that having hobbies is what makes you interesting!

    1. David,
      Are you mocking me? I’m trying to be cynical here. :) (sarcasm)

      You are right, complainers really are a buzz kill and hobbies do make people more interesting.
      YOU have a very interesting hobby fixing motorcycles. Not just any motorbikes, awesome vintage motorcycles. Is it the same model that James Dean Rode?

    2. Interesting article and I see your point but sorry I don’t agree with you. A true friend is a friend who is always there for you no matter what. If one is looking for fair weather friends, then this is just the antidote. As someone from big families, there are many ups and downs. There will be complaints as well as laughs and the laughs won’t always be pretty.

      In my opinion and mine only; people who are self absorbed are the most boring. Travel and museums are not bad ideas but not everyone is into that. I live in a small neighborhood in a large metropolitan city and there is diversity which makes it interesting.

      What some may define as a “hermit” may simply mean an introvert to many which I see no faults in. There is nothing wrong in living a “routine” since it shows consistency in an individual.

      Many artists and writers here may look like “hermits” but their minds are busy with constructive ideas. I think of Ernest Hemingway on this topic.

      I am not claiming to be creative which I am not. We mainly just talk sports, current events, and politics which are interesting to quite a few. I won’t claim those to be the best topics though because I am sure many keep blind eyes to those.

      I will give you a lot of credit for being proactive in writing this and making an effort. I also give you credit for the high readership on this. Not all comments will be pretty but live with the ones you like! Happy Writing!

      1. Hi Kitten, You don’t have to agree with me, we are all allowed to have our own opinions. These are the things that have helped me. I think everyone should do what is right for their situation because some solutions will not work for everyone. Travel has worked for me so I shared it. This article was merely put on paper as a journaling project for myself and to be openly Frank in a public way. I only hope that it inspires people to get out from under that debilitating cloud of feeling insecure and boring to others.
        I agree with you about how some people look like hermits on the outside are actually busy with constructive ideas. I actually don’t think Ernest Hemingway was a hermit for this same reason. I was merely trying to say that you need to put yourself out there. Only you can determine if you are a hermit.

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