Do you set most of your goals in your head or do you write them out and review them at year end?
I’ve never really been one for annual reviews except when I had to fill one out for work at the end of the year.
They always seemed pointless.
Up until last week, I kept all my goals up in my head. But now I’m starting to wonder if I could accomplish more by making a formal plan and reviewing it every so often?
Turning Over A New Leaf
This coming year, I want to try something different. I want to really work on goal setting and doing an annual review to see what worked and what didn’t work in my life.
As I said earlier, I keep all my goals in my head, so this past year I didn’t write out my goals at the beginning of the year. That doesn’t mean I can’t write out what worked and what didn’t and compare it to what I have logged in my head. This will also help me write a real, detailed plan for my 2012 goals and then I’ll have a written version for next year end .
I hope that in looking back at my successes, failures and shortcomings, I can become more aware and intentional in my choices and adjust accordingly.
I don’t want a complicated system, just a high level over view of the good the bad and the ugly. If I make it too complicated, I know I won’t stick with it so I decided to take Chris Guillebeau’s format for an annual review.
His method is simple and concise. Ask yourself these two simple questions
What went well this year?
What didn’t go well this year?
“Answering these questions is an easy way to begin the process of being intentional about your choices in the forthcoming year. “
Alternatively, if you want a little bit more help to review your year and plan for the next than you should download this free worksheet my Friend Benny Hsu over at Get Busy Living Blog made. Get it here, it’s free and really helpful
Here I go!!!!!!!
What Went Well For Me In 2011?
The biggest thing that went well for me and consequently for my family is that in January of 2011, my husband and I set out on a goal to take our three kids, aged 15, 13 and 4 to live in France for at least a year. After 7 months of planning and living like vagabonds with no home and being unemployed our visas were approved on September 25th 2011. We flew to France less than 2 weeks later on October 5th 2011.
I’m super happy about this because moving to France has been a dream of mine that I never thought I would be able to accomplish after I had kids. It wasn’t easy though. I had to convince my husband, persuade the kids, arrange the visas, find lodging, figure out where to stay while we waited for our visas and homeschool the kids while living between family and couch surfing for a year. Phew…. But we’re here now and I love seeing the world through my kids eyes.
Survived A Year Of Vagabonding With Three Kids In Tow
In October of 2010 we set out to move to the east coast to find jobs but ended up vagabonding and living semi nomadically between Montreal and Maryland for most of 2011. We somehow switched gears when we realized how bad the job market was and decided not to settle down until we found jobs. So we ended up vagabonding between Montreal and Maryland for close to a year.
Living semi-nomadically was stressful but it was also fulfilling. we got to travel, stay with both sets of family’s. Mine and my husbands and we learned just how hard we could push ourselves as a family. It was necessary for us to experience it, otherwise I’m not sure we would have taken the next step and set a goal of moving to France for a year.
Reconnect With Family
For about 8 months my family and I lived in my aunt’s home in Montreal. My aunt is 80 years old and she’s the closest thing I have to a mother since both my step mom and birth mother passed away before I was 16.
With the exception of my younger brother, all the family I have in the world live in Montreal Canada. By staying in Montreal, I got to connect with cousins, have family diners, do Christmas and Canadian Thanksgiving. It made 2011 just spectacular for me. Best of all, my 3 kids got to meet their extended family and improve their French.
Prior to 2011 we (my kids and husband) lived isolated in California with no family around. It made for lonely holidays and no family get togethers.
I also have a whole other side to my family that live in Thailand but I’ve lost touch with them due to language barriers and the fact that they are dirt poor and don’t have computers. But I digress.
I absolutely love having had the chance to spend so much up close time together. Never ever neglect or take your family for granted.
Blogging For Business And Life:
I started my blog Practical Adventurology at www.AnnieAndre.com as a way to help other adventure challenged people stuck in the grind re-learn how to live more adventurously; something I lost after college when I started down conformity lane taking jobs I hated and measuring success by title and money.
My blog is my attempt at combining all my passions into one. It’s part business, part travel, part inspirational personal development with an emphasis on being more adventurous because life is just too damn short.
I Connected And Networked With New People:
I’m kind of a micro manager and a loner.
Connecting with people has not been my strong point. In 2011, I made a point to reach out to people. This is huge because In the real world, I don’t know a lot of people who have had the same views or goals as me so I don’t get a chance to share my views very often.
Online, there are a plethora of people who get what I’m about and vice versa. I have a wanderlust and entrepreneurial spirit and It’s nice to be able to connect with other like minded people and share stories rather than working in a vacuum. The internet has made this possible.
The first person I ever reached out to happens to be Benny Hsu at www.getbusylivingblog.com. I found him on Twitter and liked what he had to say about personal development so I reached out to him. I’m really glad I did because it gave me the guts to connect with others after that. Plus I love cheering for him and seeing all his successes in life.
Learned My Limits:
I tend to try to be super human and do everything myself.
This year I am proud to say I asked for help.
Help from my kids and my husband. I closed my profitable sleeping mask business because I knew I wouldn’t be able to handle running it in France while I start up a new entrepreneurial venture at the same time.
This was extremely hard because I worked on my home business for three years to get it to the point it was at.
I had to set a limit. I was so stressed out over all that I had to do. Between, travelling, visas, the kids, cooking, making sleeping masks by hand, homeschooling and more, I was a miserable bitch. There I said it.
Allowing myself to let things go and ask for help has given me some breathing room and made me less irritable.
I also invested in myself by getting help from several coaches. I was able to achieve in a few months what would have taken me three times had I tried to go it alone. I highly recommend investing in a coach to meet with a few times a year. Or form a mastermind group. Both of which I do now.
Learned To Bake:
I love to cook and I’m not ashamed to say that I’m a pretty good cook too.
I cook Thai and Chinese food the most. Baking has always been my weakness. I’ve always wanted to learn how to bake especially cookies.
My cousins wife Diane is an amazing baker and she showed me how to bake her amazing cookies. Baking is like having a super power.
Not only can I make great tasting cookies, but baking is a great way to connect with the hubby and kids. Everyone wants to help and everyone loves to lick the bowl Thanks Diane. I love you.
What Didn’t Go Well In 2011
My Son Kieran
One of my regrets is that my son had to give up his sport of youth sailing when we left our home in California and turned into a vagabonding family of five.
We lived minutes from the San Francisco Bay, so sailing was just so spectacular for him and for us to watch.
By the age of 14 ,he had been sailing and racing competitively for over 6 years.
I hope he will be able to do some sailing this summer in the south of France, If we can afford it. Cross my fingers.
Homeschooling / Un-schooling
Because we lived like vagabonds in 2011, the kids did not go to a physical school. My husband and I had to homeschool them and let me tell you it was hard as hell. It was too much.
Between uprooting and moving our family to the east coast, living like vagabonds, running a home business and taking care of the kids, I did a terrible job of home schooling. Or at least, I didn’t do them justice.
I think I would have done a better job had we been in our own home and not moved but it’s water under the bridge now.
Not Enough Dating
My relationship with my husband means everything to me. I am very conscious about our bond and believe that a good relationship still takes a lot of work. Having time alone and doing activities together is one of those things I like to do with my husband to ensure our bond and keep having fun.
But, my husband and I did not take enough personal time to develop our relationship in 2011. We barely did anything all of last year. We were really busy with all that was going on, but that’s no excuse.
Next year will be different. I know it.
Not Enough Progress on my new entrepreneurial venture
I’m sad to say, I didn’t achieve all my entrepreneurial goals. I planned on writing an e-book and failed to finish.
I planned on coming up with a business model to monetize and turn my skills into a business. I didn’t execute.
I bit off more than I could chew by committing myself to some things I just didn’t have time to do. This is something that just couldn’t be avoided because making the move to France and vagabonding took all my effort and all my time.
2012 will need to be different. I can’t afford it not too be.
With my home sleeping mask business quashed for the moment, I need to start a second source of income to be able to support and contribute to my family financially.
2012 will be about marrying my passion for travel, entrepreneurship, helping people and rolling them into a profitable business model. ANY IDEAS? Post them below in the comments area.
Well that’s it. There were other small wins and loses in 2011 but these represented the bigger ones that really effected me.
LOOKING FORWARD to 2012
In looking back and evaluating the good and the bad, I can see that everywhere I failed was because I didn’t really sit down and plan my year and my goals.
All my goals were in my head. Had I sat down and prioritized I might have foreseen that I was biting off more than I could chew for 2011.
As a result I stretched myself too thin.
For 2012, I plan to write down my goals. I mean a really detailed plan so that I’ll have something to look back upon at the end of 2012.
Now that we are settled in France, I can really focus on doing some of the other goals that I didn’t get a chance to do.
- Mostly, I want to work on turning my multi-passions into a thriving business while also helping people realize their own dream of travel and living abroad. Especially people who have kids. I’ve noticed there is a lot of talk out there about single people travelling but not a lot of families with kids. There is a certain mystery about it and I want to help clear the air about how more people can do what we are doing.
If I can make a positive impact on the world while also providing for my family, well, that would be idea wouldn’t it?
- I also plan to try to have more fun especially with my kids. I’ve been way too serious for the past 2 years mainly because I’ve been worried about money ever since getting laid off and running my own sleeping mask business.
- Lastly, I want to build strong relationships with new friends, old friends and be more adventurous by doing, seeing and experiencing more things in life.
Tell me what went well for you in 2011 in the comments below and what didn’t go so well.