You’re not supposed to care what other people think but let’s face it…..
no one wants to bore the hell out of other people or have a life so uninteresting that even you find your life boring.
So why are there so many boring people out there walking around and how can YOU be LESS boring?
Enter Madame “M”—> An extremely boring person.
We all know someone like Madam “M”. She’s a very nice lady but she has no clue that she is boring and no one has the heart to tell her either…….
If you see her on the street, you discreetly turn around and walk the other way.
When you speak with her, all you can think about is how to gracefully leave.
Madam M could be anyone. She could be you, me, your mom or an acquaintance of yours.
I started wondering, If she has no clue that she is boring, am I boring too and what exactly makes one person boring and another person NOT boring?
Yes I worry and care about these things and obviously you do too otherwise you wouldn’t be here….
10 Signs You Are A Boring Person
I did a bunch of rather unscientific research to find the answer to my question on what makes someone boring:
I read a bunch of articles and books on the topic of becoming a more interesting and engaging person.
I also asked a bunch of people what they thought made someone boring and others not boring.
I even conducted a bunch of experiments applying what I learned to see if I could be less boring and more interesting to others.
Below are all my findings condensed into the top 10 things I think make a person boring. Are you guilty of any of these?
1-You Talk Non Stop About Things That Only Interest You.
Sign: No one likes to be on a one sided conversation and nothing screams BOOOORING more than talking non stop about subjects that other people couldn’t care less about. Like the weather or how paint dry’s.
Usually this type of person requires no response. They just start talking and talking with no end in sight. The listener doesn’t even need to respond. They can just nod their head and say Uhh huh, uh huh.
Solution: If you notice that you are doing all the talking and the other person has gone quiet then stop talking. Try to engage the other person and ask them questions and just listen.
Conversely, if you are trapped by this boring person, there is not much you can do except excuse yourself abruptly from the conversation. Another tactic might be to change the topic to something equally boring. Good luck…
2- You Are A Total Downer
Sign: Let’s face it, no one wants to be around downers.
If you’re the type of person who constantly sees the glass as half empty and you talk about really depressing things all the time then you might be depressing and boring at the same time.
I once knew someone like this. I tried to make it work but I was exhausted by our relationship. I had to constantly lift her spirits. Whenever I met her, I was always sad, or sombre and rarely laughed.
Examples of depressing conversation killers
- “Oh Annie, I wish I was smarter”
- “Life is so hard”
- “why does everyone hate me”?
- “I have no friends”.
- whaa whaa whaa, oh woes me!!
Solution: If you know a downer in your life, the best you can do is either be blunt with them and tell them how they are depressing you. If you are like me, you will try to be there for this friend for as long as humanly possibly to support that person. In the end, if their negativity is effecting you than you might have to end the relationship or distance yourself from that person like I had to do.
If it is you who is this type of Debbie downer, consider changing your outlook on life. Being positive in life will also help lift your spirits. Try to see the positive. What’s that old saying? If life gives you lemons than make lemonade?
3- You Are Really Uptight And Overly Serious
Sign: Fun people like to laugh, tell jokes and let loose. It only makes sense that to be really boring you have to be and do the opposite.
This type of person is super RIGID and worried about PROTOCOL. God forbid if they ever let loose. Here are some examples of really uptight statements.
“I’m too mature to do that”
“What are all these damn kids doing in this park”
“Someone needs to shut that kid up” ( on an air plane during landing a baby is crying)
“Don’t bother falling in love, it all ends up in divorce anyways”
Solution: Let loose have some fun. You’ll know you are having fun when you laugh and don’t care who sees.
If you know someone who is uptight and a buzz kill than try to lead by example. Sometimes your upbeat and fun attitude can be contagious.
4-You Complain About Everything
Sign: This type of person sees fault in everything and is not afraid to let you know.
There is no joy or fun in being around someone like this because you feel like you have to walk on egg shells around them.
Here are some great examples of what a complainer might say.
- “The music is too loud” (it’s almost at the lowest setting)
- “what’s that horrible smell? “ It’s butter, garlic and shallots in a white wine sauce.
- “Stop walking on the grass, you are crushing it” (It’s a pique-nique area)
- “You eat too much”
- “you never eat” (the next day the same person said this to me)
Solution: I have no idea how to handle this type of venomous personality. In my experience, this person is out to make themselves look or feel good by seeing the bad in others or putting others down. I usually try to be very careful around this person and I try reducing the amount of time I spend with them. If that is not possible than have a good outlet to recharge and re-boot.
5-You Never Try New Things or Travel To New Places
Sign: Fun, non-boring people tend to do and see a lot of new things. They talk about those things and are so filled with joy because their life is so satisfying.
A boring person doesn’t do much outside of their necessary routine. Work, eat sleep. It’s hard to talk to someone who hasn’t had a lot of experience outside of their normal routine.
Solution: The solution is simple. Get out and do some stuff. Anything.
- Go to the museum
- Check out a new ethnic restaurant
- Go to the gym or learn to play squash
- Travel to new places, live abroad or spend a year in France like we did.
6- You Never Ever Smile
Sign: When I think about people who are fun in my life, I picture them smiling, laughing and just being jovial.
When I think of someone boring, I picture scowling faces and furrowed eyebrows.
Which one are you? All Smiles or all Frowny?
Solution: Just smile. I learned a long time ago that the simple act of smiling can lift someone’s spirits.
Smiling is also contagious. I have smiled at scowly faced people on the street and to my surprise, they suddenly smile back.
I once had someone stop to “thank me” for smiling at them. Try it, it really works.
7- You Are Super Predictable and Never Spontaneous
I love seeing life through my children’s eyes because like most kids, they are naturally curious and seek out new experiences. Well, it’s also fun to be around adults with these qualities. Not only does it make you less predictable, you can also become more spontaneous and less likely to do the same thing day in and day out.
Contrast that to someone who is ALWAYS predictable and nothing new ever happens to them. No one will ask “Gee, I wonder what so and so person is up to”. They won’t have to because they will know that you always do the same thing every day. Now that I think about it, isn’t that what a rut looks and feels like? Who wants to be in a rut?
Examples of some ways you can be predictable are…..
- Everything you do has to be planned to the “T”
- You always take the practical safe route in life.
- You say NO more than you say YES
Solution: If you are this type of boring and predictable person, do more things you would not normally do. Start right now. Go and find something new to do and just go do it. Say “YES” more. Stop planning everything. Now go.
8- You Work All The Time
Sign: When you make work your life’s purpose your almost guaranteed to be a boring person because. Who wants to hang out with someone who enjoys working more than they like laughing and having fun. I’m all for working hard. Hell, I work my ass off but if that is all I did, my own family would probably disown me.
Solution: Spend more time outside of work. I’m not talking about vegging outin front of the T.V. like some tired overworked couch potato. I’m talking about living your life to the fullest and doing all those things you’ve always wanted to do but haven’t yet. Don’t let work define who you are.
9-You have No Hobbies
Some hobbies put you in contact with people who are passionate. Hobbies like sailing, golfing, even board games. That passion transcends into your daily life and inspires you to pursue other hobbies outside of working, sleeping and eating.
Solution: Get a hobby. Then meet other people who enjoy that same hobby. There are lots of clubs for various hobbies you can join. Just look online or in your local paper.
10-You are A Hermit
A hermits life is not only very sad but it’s also uninteresting, monotonous and plain.
A hermit is a slave the the four walls of their house. Never experiencing all that life has to offer.
Solution: Get out there and live your life.
FINAL WORD OF ADVICE..
It’s easy to be less boring.
It just involves a little change and an adventurous spirit.
Yes, you may have to go a little outside of your comfort zone to try new things, meet new people or see new places. But it’s worth it. give it a try.
One baby step at a time. You can start small and do something new everyday.
Before you know it, people will call you “THE FUN ONE”